If there is one resounding note that I have discovered in the world of portrait photography and especially boudoir photography is that every woman we meet has something about their face or body they don’t like. Even the woman in the image shown here had them. I see beauty and they see imperfection.
I recall when I was a young girl I was very shy and self conscious. I was a little round and somewhat plain in my eyes. Every woman and young girl around me has faced these issues. I, to this day, still have many of those thoughts. I am the oldest of 3 sisters and the mother of 2 teenage daughters and I photograph women of all ages. I have seen and heard about this too many times to count. When my eyes see a beautiful girl and all I hear from her mouth is a stream of things she sees as wrong or ugly when she looks in the mirror, it’s just sad. I guess beauty being in the eye of the beholder couldn’t ring more true.
The key is to change the eye of the beholder. I wonder if there will ever come a time in the future when women are able to make this change and look at their reflections in the mirror and say ‘that is me and I am BEAUTIFUL’? I feel that this is a far reaching goal or possibly even a dream. I am not sure at what point along the way that this has become the mindset of women but it definitely happened.
We have been exposed to so much judgement about looks and body image. The ‘perfect’ body, as portrayed in society, is unattainable. I would go as far as to say that, even if a woman had that ‘perfect’ body she would still find something in the mirror to pick at. When will this be a thing of the past?
Raising 2 teenage girls in this society is quite the challenge. It is almost totally up to parents and family to fill their children with self confidence, raise them to see the beauty they have inside and out. It is NOT an easy task. They are exposed on every other side with the world’s ideas and that is hard to overcome. But repetition can work wonders. The more it’s said the more it’s heard and even believed.
To change these ideas we each have to do our part. We must build people up, don’t tear them down. It’s like that with any change that needs to be made. One little step at a time, one individual at a time. We need to switch focus from looks to health and well being. I certainly don’t have the answers on how to make this happen. But I can make the change within myself.
I can make sure my kids know how beautiful I think they are. And I can do that with every other person I come in contact with. A change of this nature in society CAN happen the question is WILL it happen?
I know I will do my part and WE will do our part! We work to make every woman that comes to us feel beautiful. Be it in a Boudoir session, Portrait session or a High School Senior session our focus is on our client. We make each of them FEEL beautiful and do our best to empower them with that. That’s our mission and it’s one I am proud of.